1. Who works long hours, travels frequently, deploys, or lives away from your family for part of the year?

a. My partner

b. Me

c. Both of us

d. Neither of us

2. Working long hours can put extra steps on the family. Who works more than 50 hours per week?

a. My partner

b. Me

c. Both of us

d. Neither of us

3. I worry that our children do not see __ often enough. 

a. My partner

b. Me

c. Both of us

d. I never think this 

4. When family life gets stressful, something’s gotta give. Who made accommodations in their careers due to the demands of a partner’s career?

a. My partner

b. Me

c. Both of us

d. Neither of us

5. If one of your kids gets sicks, who takes off work or cancels pals in order to car for your child?

a. My partner

b. Me

c. Both of us

d. Neither of us

6. Who thinks of their job as an important part of their identity?

a. My partner

b. Me

c. Both of us

d. Neither of us

7. My partner and I argue about how housework and childcare are divided.

a.??????

8. Family first or work first? Sometimes I wonder who ___would put first. 

a. My partner

b. Me

c. Both of us

d. I never think this

9. My friends have hear something about our family life and then told me, “I could never do what you do.”

a. ??????

10. I sometimes wonder if ___ is a workaholic. 

a. My partner

b. Me

c. Both of us

d. I never think this