When you are married to a Must Do partner, you get the front row seat to what it means to have an amazeballs career.
We don't mean your partner is skateboarding through their office or jobsite wearing nothing but a Rainbow Dash hat and signing reports with a glitter pen.
We mean that more than anyone else, you get to see how your partner benefits from having work they want to do --even on the days they are not quite lovin’ their job.
What about you, Must Have Parent?
How are you doing on your job? Outside life with the kids, do you have paid employment you enjoy doing, too? Are you working toward a career you want? Or are you lost, stuck or scared?
Lost, Stuck or Scared?
This week career strategist Julie Bauke wrote brilliantly about how few people are actually working at jobs they want to do. She says most people she meets fall into one of three categories—they are lost, stuck or scared.
We see the same thing. While Must Have Parents are often sure about what they are doing for their families, so many MHPs we know are lost, stuck or scared when it comes to their work. Baulke describes the categories this way:
LOST: I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know it is NOT THIS.
STUCK: I don’t have any other options when it comes to my work, or I don’t want to do any of the options that are available to me, so I have to do this job.
SCARED: I know what I want to do, but it is too risky. I don’t think I could make it work.
Knowing that these categories are so common helps... a little. It is good to know you aren’t alone in your struggle.
That does not let you off the hook, does it, MHP? If the life satisfaction you and your partner want includes happy marriage, happy kids and meaningful work, you, too, gotta do the work that gets you past that lost/stuck/scared place.
You probably ought to know you will have to do that journey more than once. But recognizing you are lost/stuck/scared is your starting point. Read Julie Baulke’s suggestions on how to work through each category here.
Because work satisfaction isn’t limited to Must Do Parents. Work satisfaction is a good goal for everyone in the family.