About Must Have Parent

If your partner loves you and the kids (and you know they do), then why would they take a job that demands long hours, mega travel, deployment and/or sometimes living apart?  How can you parent 50/50 with someone who is hardly ever home? And doesn't love mean never having to say, "I won't be home for dinner?"

As military journalists in a decade marked by war-driven deployments, Jacey Eckhart and Rebekah Sanderlin heard these questions from military husbands and wives all over the country.  They also heard from parents with similar challenges outside the military.  

All these people were going crazy the same way.  Instead of parenting 50/50, they found that the one at home became the Must Have Parent--the holder of the fort, the keeper of the calendar, the hands on parent, the anchor parent, the lead parent, the front line parent.  The one with the extreme job became the Must Do Parent who often earned most of the money, but sometimes floated just outside the family.

Since they are both Must Have Parents, Jacey and Rebekah started to collect and apply all the best parenting solutions that worked for families who had a partner in a Must Do job.  Their goal is to collect the stories and strategies to bring together Must Have Parents, Must Do Parents and the kids who love them together in the most powerful way in the world.

About Jacey Eckhart

Jacey Eckhart is a military sociologist whose work has influenced a generation of military families through her syndicated column, her book The Homefront Club, and her award winning CDs These Boots and I Married a Spartan?? Her work has been featured in the New York Times and The Huffington Post.  She has been featured as a military family subject matter expert on NBC Dateline, CBS Morning News, CNN, NPR, The Washington Post, The Washington Times and Woman’s Day.  Eckhart is an Air Force brat, a Navy wife and an Army mom-- whose kids still like to bounce on her bed. 

About Rebekah Sanderlin

Rebekah Sanderlin is a nationally prominent voice on family and parenting issues since 2006.  The wife of a 20-year soldier, her written work has appeared in The New York Times, Self, Maxim, Kiwi, The Washington Post, NPR’s All Things Considered, The Huffington Post and a “Life Lessons” essay in an upcoming issue of Real Simple.  She helped advise the White House on the 2010 Presidential Directive on Military Families.  She serves on the National Advisory Boards for two national military family organizations: Blue Star Families and the Military Family Advisory Network. In 2010 Brian Williams named her NBC Nightly News’ “Person of the Week.” Rebekah is currently a contributing editor to Military.com and juggles life with her three kids in Florida while wrestling alligators.